Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Chapter 6 Cuffs goodies (her kink list)

One of the things that helped me write this chapter was looking at several kink lists, and, yes, I was ignorant of what some things were. I had to look at a glossary, so if you're like me and curious for more info, here's the glossary I used:

http://www.differentequals.com/glossary.html

Now that we've got that out of the way. Let's talk about Bella's kink list she handed over...

Here's one of the checklists I used quite a bit and the majority of the list below is from this website, though I did remove a few that had absolutely no bearing on this story:

http://latches.webslaves.com/checklist.htm

Here we go--Bella's instructions and her list so they could make sure they were compatible:

Directions:

Rating Scale
0 Utterly no desire to do that activity and don’t like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and ordinarily would object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if they really wanted it (sometimes called a soft limit)
1 Don’t want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object it if was asked of you
2 Willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you
3 Usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis
4 You like doing this activity and would like to experience it on a regular basis
5 Is a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as possible

Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the comments section.
There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the sub is the recipient/target of the activity

Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the comments section.
There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the sub is the recipient/target of the activity


Activity
Experience
Respond YES/NO
Willingness
Rate according to scale described above
Comments
Abrasion
No
3
This girl has sensitive skin and marks easily. Would want this in a place that could be concealed easily by clothing.
Age Play
No
2
Anal Sex
Yes
4
Experienced anal player.
Anal Plugs (small)
Yes
4
Anal Plugs (large)
Yes
4
Anal Plug (public under clothes)
Yes
4
Animal Roles
No
0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)
Yes
4
Aromas
Yes
5
Asphyxiation
Yes
3
Depends on how it’s done, but it’s something this girl fantasize about frequently, especially with your hands.
Auctioned for charity
No
0
Not interested in sharing either one of us at all.
Ball Stretching
N/A
Bathroom use control
No
0
Beastiality
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Beating (soft)
Yes
0
Beating (hard)
NO
0
Blindfolding
Yes
5
Being Serviced (sexual)
Yes
3
Being bitten
Yes
5
Breast/chest bondage
Yes
5
Breath control
No
0
Branding
No
0
Temporary and depending on how it’s done would be okay. Nothing permanent.
Boot Worship
Yes
2
Bondage (light)
Yes
5
Ropes especially.
Bondage (heavy)
Yes
4
Bondage (multi-day)
No
0
Bondage (public under clothing)
Yes
3
Breast whipping
Yes
3
Brown showers (scat)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Cages (locked inside)
Yes
0
Absolute hard limit.
Caning
Yes
0
This is an absolute hard limit regardless of experience of the Dom.
Castration fantasy
N/a
Catheterization
No
0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
No
0
Chains
Yes
4
Chastity belts
Yes
2
Chauffeuring
Yes
2
Choking
Yes
3
See asphyxiation.
Chores (domestic service)
Yes
5
Clothespins
Yes
3
Cock rings/straps
N/A
Cock worship
Yes
4
Collars (worn in private)
Yes
5
Collars (worn in public)
Yes
5
Competitions (with other subs)
No
0
Corsets (wearing casually)
Yes
4
Corsets (trained waist reduction)
Yes
2
Cuffs (leather)
Yes
5
Cuffs (metal)
Yes
3
Cutting
No
0
Absolute hard limit, along with next 3.
Diapers (wearing)
No
0
Diapers (wetting)
No
0
Diapers (soiling)
No
0
Dilation
No
0
Dildos
Yes
4
Double Penetration
Yes
5
Electricity
Yes
4
Enemas (for cleansing)
No
0
Enemas ( retention/punishment)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Enforced chastity
Yes
4
Erotic Dance (for audience)
Yes
3
Only if the audience is strictly my Dom.
Examinations (physical)
Yes
3
Exercise (forced/required)
Yes
3
Exhibitionism (friends)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Exhibitionism (strangers)
No
0
Eye contact restrictions
Yes
4
Face Slapping
No
0
Fantasy Abandonment
No
0
Fantasy rape
NO
0
Absolute hard limit.
Fantasy gang rape
NO
0
I think it’s clear this is non-negotiable.
Fear (being scared)
No
0
Fisting (anal)
No
2
Fisting (vaginal)
No
2
Flame play
No
4
Very interested in trying this. Temperature play appeals to me.
Following orders
Yes
5
Foot worship
No
0
Forced bedwetting
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
forced dressing
No
2
Forced eating
No
0
Forced homosexuality
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Forced masturbation
Yes
3
Forced nudity (private)
Yes
4
Forced nudity (around others)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Forced Servitude
Yes
5
Forced smoking
No
0
Absolutely not.
Full head hoods
Yes
0
Gags (cloth)
Yes
3
Gags (inflatable)
Yes
3
Gags (phallic)
Yes
3
Gags (rubber)
Yes
3
Gags (tape)
No
3
Gas masks
No
0
Gates of Hell (male)
N/A
Genital sex
Yes
5
Given away to another Dom (temp)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Given away to another Dom (perm)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Golden Showers
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Gun play
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Hair brush spankings
Yes
5
Hair pulling
Yes
5
Hand Jobs (giving)
Yes
5
Hand Jobs (receiving)
N/A
Harems (serving w/other subs)
No
0
Harnessing (leather)
Yes
5
Harnessing (rope)
Yes
5
Having food chosen for you
Yes
5
Having clothing chosen for you
Yes
5
(head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)
Yes
4
Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus)
Yes
3
High Heel Wearing
Yes
4
High Heel Worship
No
0
Hoods
Yes
0
Hot oils (on genitals)
Yes
3
Hot waxing
Yes
5
Housework (doing)
Yes
5
Human puppy dog
No
0
Humiliation (private)
Yes
2
Humiliation (public)
Yes
0
Hypnotism
No
0
Ice cubes
Yes
5
Immobilization
Yes
5
Infantilism
No
0
Initiation rites
No
0
Injections
No
0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage
Yes
5
Interrogations
No
0
Kidnapping
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Kneeling
Yes
5
Knife play
No
0
Leather Clothing
Yes
3
Leather restraints
Yes
5
Lectures for misbehavior
Yes
3
Licking (non-sexual)
Yes
2
Lingerie (wearing)
Yes
4
Manacles and Irons
Yes
3
Manicures (giving)
No
0
Massage (giving)
Yes
4
Massage (receiving)
Yes
3
Medical scenes
Yes
2
Modeling for erotic photos
Yes
3
Mouth bits
Yes
4
Mummification
No
0
Name change (for scene)
Yes
4
Nipple clamps
Yes
5
Nipple rings (piercing)
No
0
Nipple weights
Yes
3
Oral/anal play (rimming)
Yes
4
Over the knee spanking
Yes
4
Orgasm denial
Yes
3
Orgasm control
Yes
3
Outdoor scenes
Yes
3
Pain (severe)
No
0
Pain (mild)
Yes
3
Phone sex (serving Dom)
Yes
4
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Phone sex (commercial provider)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)
No
0
Piercing (permanent)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Plastic surgery
No
0
Prison scenes
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Prostitution (public pretense)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Prostitution (actual)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Pony slave
No
0
Punishment scene
Yes
3
Pussy/cock whipping
Yes
3
Pussy worship
Yes
4
Riding crops
Yes
5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort)
No
0
Rituals
Yes
3
Religious scenes
Yes
3
Restrictive rules on behavior
Yes
3
Rubber/latex clothing
No
0
Rope body harness
Yes
3
Saran wrap
Yes
2
Scarification
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Scratching - getting
Yes
4
Scratching - giving
Yes
4
Sensory deprivation
No
2
Serving
Yes
5
Serving as art
No
2
Serving as ashtray
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Serving as furniture
Yes
2
Serving as a maid
Yes
3
Serving as a toilet (urine)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Serving as a toilet (feces)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Serving as waitress/waiter
Yes
3
Serving orally (sexual)
Yes
4
Serving other Doms (supervised)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Yes
3
Sexual deprivation (long term)
No
0
Shaving (body hair)
Yes
4
Having (pubic hair)
Yes
3
Skinny dipping
Yes
3
Sleep deprivation
No
1
Sleep sacks
No
1
Slutty clothing (private)
Yes
5
Slutty clothing (public)
No
0
Spandex clothing
Yes
1
Spanking
Yes
5
Speech restrictions (when/what)
Yes
3
Speculums (anal)
No
1
Speculums (vaginal)
No
1
Spitting
No
0
Spreader bars
Yes
4
Standing in corner
Yes
2
Stocks
No
1
Straight jackets
No
1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
No
0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
Yes
3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
No
0
Strapping (full body beating)
No
0
Suspension (upright)
Yes
5
Suspension (inverted)
Yes
5
Supplying new partners for Dom
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Swallowing feces
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Swallowing semen
Yes
3
Swallowing urine
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Swapping (with one other couple)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Swinging (multiple couples)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Tampon training (in ass)
No
1
Tattooing
No
0
Temporary henna tattoos as long in done in easily concealed places are acceptable. No permanent tattoos.
Teasing
Yes
5
TENS unit (electrical toy)
Yes
4
Thumb cuffs (metal)
No
2
Tickling
Yes
2
Triple Penetration
Yes
3
Uniforms
Yes
5
Including others
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Vaginal dildo
Yes
4
Verbal humiliation
Yes
1
Vibrator on genitals
Yes
4
Violet wand (electrical toy)
Yes
5
Voyeurism (watching others)
Yes
1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
No
0
Absolute hard limit.
Video (watching others)
Yes
3
Video (recordings of you)
Yes
2
Water torture
No
0
Waxing (hair removal)
Yes
2
Wearing symbolic jewelry
Yes
5
Weight gain (forced)
No
0
Weight loss (forced)
No
0
Whipping
Yes
3
Wooden paddles
Yes
3
Wrestling
No
0




4 comments:

  1. Interesting list.

    But with Bella's hardlimits is would be difficult to go to any play parties and BDSM clubs without breaking one of them, because she excludes all things, which have to do with public. Is this intended?

    Greetings
    sit

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    1. Great question. ;D

      Yep, it's intended. She doesn't want to go to parties or clubs. She wants this strictly to be with her Dom. She's very shy and insecure about doing anything where she'd be viewed in public.

      Obviously, this is strictly to this character. I've written other BDSM stories where that is not the case at all. That's the fun of writing these stories to me. I love how the lifestyle is so individualized to Dom/sub relationships.

      Thanks for reading and commenting. I appreciate it!

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  2. As one who has been in the lifestyle for almost 20 years. This is a very interesting checklist. I personally do not like it at all. There are a lot of contradiction in some of the activities. No breath play but willing to do asphyxiation and choking. No to foot worship but yes to boot worship. Yes to saran wrap but no to mummification. The nos to beating but yes to riding crops, paddles and whips. By Yes I mean you rated it a 2 or more and by no I mean your rated them at 0.

    It is interesting because I know that what we call light bondage to others might be considered heavy bondage. There is no right or wrong way to do things and I think this is way it is so hard for non lifestylers to understand.

    The public play is very common. We do not play publicly but we do go to parties and munches. How else do you grow? You have to establish a network of friends and mentors. Like I said earlier we have been in the lifestyle for almost 20 years and we have only be public about the last 5 years. So I understand not wanting to do that. In fact that is why we still don't play at parties yet. I have not yet worked through those demons.

    We are now friends on Facebook. I am on twitter (same name). Feel free to contact me if you want.

    Love the story so far. They are experiencing what we call sub frenzy and Dom frenzy right now. It can be dangerous.
    Rae

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    1. Hi, Inspire Rae,
      Thank you so much for your comments. I wrote a new post covering these issues. Hopefully it clears up why some of the list was contradictory. :D

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